As our wedding gets closer (73 days!), Rob and I decided to join all of our accounts together to alleviate some of the stress after we return from our honeymoon. We now have a joint American Express account, car insurance, renter's insurance, and most noteworthy, a joint checking and savings account. I was totally ecstatic in the beginning to merge our little nest eggs into one nice joint Regions account, but when it actually came down to following through, I admit I freaked out quite a bit. It's very unnerving to give someone complete access to ALL your money and have to share EVERYTHING. Especially since it took me so long to save up so much. But, Rob and I agreed early on that we would have a joint account, as well as a personal account for each of us. We've designated 90% of our take-home income to be direct deposited into our joint account, and 10% of each of our biweekly incomes to be allocated into our personal accounts. This way, all the bills (rent, gas, groceries, car insurance and payments, travel) are deducted from the main account, and when one of us wishes to purchase a CD or get a pedicure (I hope that applies to me, and not Rob) you use your own personal account. Gifts you purchase for one another around Christmas are also purchased with this personal account. We wanted to be able to say we bought each other items without the other person actually contributing to the payment of that gift. Or finding out a gift was even bought by looking at the monthly credit card statement. I don't know anyone else who uses this system after they are married, but I think this arrangement will work perfectly for Rob and me. To be completely honest, it's been very mind-blowing to put so much trust in someone not to take advantage of you. I know Rob and I will be married for life, but I guess now with all the combining of assets and debt (student loans) it's become real for me. He'll take care of me, and I'll take care of him from here to eternity :)
While discussing which items constituted as a joint versus a personal expenditure, I kept thinking about how poor I was going to be from here on out. I get 10% of my income every two weeks?? It's gonna take me forever to save up for clothes or a hair appointment. I unleashed my frustrations onto Rob one night, to which he clarified that a hair appointment would be considered a joint expense. "I have to get my hair cut, so you can get your hair done too," he explains. REALLY?! It's joint?!? Why in the world would choosing to get my hair colored every couple of months constitute as joint? Plus, it's alot more expensive than a men's haircut. Well, apparently if its upkeep of health we're gonna declare it as joint. So, I've decided to twist and turn all my personal expenses into being considered "upkeep of health or lifestyle." HAHA! Pedicure? I have to get one, it's good for my feet! Clothes? Upkeep of my appearance so I can look beautiful for you! New books? I have to keep my mind alert and strong for you! HAHAHAHA! Maybe this joint account stuff isn't so bad....



